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15 Tips on How to Be a Better Parent

May 24, 2019, Author: Tamra Cater

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I try to always do what I can do be a better parent for my child, but sometimes I still think I can do better. I work hard in terms of trying to make money and care for my family, but I also want to make sure I’m putting my family first. At times, I also feel too exhausted to do much with my daughter. So, this leaves me wondering, am I doing enough? Am I showing her that I love her enough? What else can I do to be a better mom? For example, sometimes I feel as if I’m not paying enough attention to her or “being present.”

Rest assured, caring about being a parent probably means you are a good parent. However, there are lots of easy to incorporate strategies and tips that can help anyone be a better a parent.

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Tips for Being a Better Parent

1.Give your child lots of love. Hug your child and cuddle with them every day. Even in the midst of a tantrum, sometimes a hug is what your child needs.

2.Validate their feelings. Young children want to still be heard and feel like someone understands them. So, it’s important to try to listen and understand the emotions that your child is feeling. And help your child label these emotions, so they can better understand what they are feeling.

3. Be a good role model. This goes for a lot of things. For example, I even have to tell my husband to watch his language at times, because our daughter can pick up on this. Also, if you want your child to be active, take them outside and play. Go to the park or go for a walk. And do this consistently. If you want your child to be a good reader, turn off your tv and read a book yourself.

4. Show your child the same respect that you want from him or her. Listen and respect your child’s own ideas and boundaries.

5.Do what you can do boost your child’s confidence and self-esteem. This will help your child feel valued and that they are enough. Part of this can involve praising your children when they do something good. For other great tips on boosting your child’s confidence, click here.

6.Teach your child good habits early on. For example, this can include good eating habits such as providing at least one fruit and one vegetable at each meal. This can also include good hygiene such as washing hands, brushing one’s teeth, and taking baths. This makes it more likely these habits will “stick” later on.

7. Listen attentively when your child is talking. Again, children want to be heard. I’m guilty of trying to listen while also looking at my phone or computer. So, it’s important to remove distractions and listen to your children. This will help them feel valued and that you are interested in what they have to say.

8.Stay calm when an argument or tantrum occurs with your child. Emotions can definitely run high, so it’s important to stay cool to prevent things from escalating even more. If you feel yourself getting angry or upset, take a time out. This can involve walking out of the room for a minute or taking a short walk.

9. Even if your child fails at something, praise them for their effort. It may be helpful to discuss what mistakes were made and what can be done to help improve upon the situation. For example, if your child failed a test, and they studied, praise them for their effort at studying and trying. Then, help them problem solve what went wrong. Did they study enough and did they study the right things?

10.Allow your child time to be a child. I have been teaching swim lessons to a child who is only 4. She comes to swim lessons exhausted, because she is also going to school and doing other activities as well. It’s ok to stimulate your child and get them involved in other activities that may interest them, but be sure it’s not overwhelming them. They need time to just play and be kids.

11.Remember to be patient. For example, sometimes toddlers will have tantrums over things that seem illogical to us, but they are at a time in their life where they can’t regulate their emotions. So, in this case, rather than seeing this behavior as naughty and intentional, it’s more helpful to try to understand the behavior. Then, come up with a solution to the tantrum. For more tips on being a patient parent, click here.

12.Let your kids play inside and outside. Play is disappearing in schools, but it’s almost a necessity for a child’s development. Thus, head to the play ground. Encourage your child to play with blocks. For more information on why play is important to your child’s development, click here.

13.Engage in good communication with your child. Listen to your child and also talk to them. If you are communicating well, this will help develop trust and respect between your and your child. When children are young, talking to your child a lot will help develop their language abilities.

14.Engage in self-care. You will most definitely be a better parent if you take care of yourself! You will be more attuned to your child’s needs, and it will help you stay calmer and more patient.

15.Admit when you are wrong or when you made a mistake. Apologize to your child when you made a mistake.

Final Thoughts

I hope these tips offer some easy to incorporate strategies to help you become the parent you want to be! It takes time, effort, and patience, but you can get there! And as mentioned, if you are concerned about whether or not you are doing enough, this probably means you are a good parent.

We can do this! 🙂

 

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Reference

Colton, A. (2017). How to Be a good parent: 323 great tips for better parenting. Kindle edition.

 

 

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comments (29)

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    Love these tips! I really appreciate getting to read posts like this! :)

    Brie

    May 25, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you!

      Tamra Cater

      May 25, 2019 Reply
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      These tips are so great! I also have to remind my husband to watch the things he says. They're just tiny little sponges. I will have to check out the books you recommend as well! Always love more learning material

      Kaci

      May 25, 2019 Reply
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        Thank you! Awesome!

        Tamra Cater

        May 25, 2019 Reply
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    Love these tips! There is nothing better to grow connection then to connect with your child and show them you care about their everyday struggles and feelings, even the negative ones. Being a good role model and having patience are both important things to keep in mind. But I think the tip I like best is the last one. Apologizing to your child when you are wrong teaches your child even you are not perfect and I think that lets them relate to you a lot more.

    Jaya Avendel

    May 25, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you!

      Tamra Cater

      May 25, 2019 Reply
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    Great suggestions! I think it's so important to let a child be a child, especially! Also, I just got the 'Whole-Brain Child' for my birthday, so I've got to get around to finishing it.

    Main Mom

    May 25, 2019 Reply
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      I think you’ll really like it!

      Tamra Cater

      May 25, 2019 Reply
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      Awesome tips! I especially like number 10. Children are often told things like ‘your too old’ or ‘you’re old enough to know better’. Kids are still kids and need their time to be KIDS!

      Samantha

      June 23, 2019 Reply
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        Thank you!

        Tamra Cater

        June 23, 2019 Reply
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    These are wonderful ideas! I really relate to being a role model for them. Telling them to do something does not have the same power as leading with an example.

    Split the night

    May 26, 2019 Reply
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    This is great advice! It’s so important to be a good role model for children.

    Ellen

    May 27, 2019 Reply
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    It’s so important to be a good role model for children. I’m sure these tips will be very helpful for lots of parents!

    Ellen

    May 27, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you!!

      Tamra Cater

      May 27, 2019 Reply
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    Great tips. Everyone should see this.

    janice sisemore

    May 27, 2019 Reply
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    These are so good and so true. I think respect is so important when parenting. Great tips!

    Arianne P

    May 27, 2019 Reply
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    Oh I love this!! I absolutely needed to read this one today. We are on our first week of summer over here and tempers were flaring while we were all adjusting to being home together full time. #2 and #10 are huge to me! With 4 kiddos routines can set in and we can easily get rushed from one thing to the next just trying to manage activities. My 13 year old also responds so incredibly well when she is frustrated to me simply repeating what she said, and saying I understand how you got there. I think parenting is all in the little moments!

    Rachel | The Secret Life

    May 30, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you. I'm glad it was helpful. :)

      Tamra Cater

      May 30, 2019 Reply
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    These are great tips! I'm not a mom yet (hoping to adopt in the next year or two) but I'm taking it all in and trying to remember the things I'm learning from others. Thanks!

    Clarrisa Lee

    May 31, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you. That's awesome that you want to adopt! We do want to adopt as well if we decide to have another child.

      Tamra Cater

      May 31, 2019 Reply
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    These are really fantastic tips! I think the point about teaching your children good habits early in life is very important as these will be more difficult for them to pick up later.

    Michael Anderson

    June 1, 2019 Reply
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    This was really interesting. I don’t have children but will pass this on to my sister in law xx

    Sarah

    June 2, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you! I appreciate it!

      Tamra Cater

      June 2, 2019 Reply
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    2 and 4 are everything!!!

    Andi Preston

    June 4, 2019 Reply
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      They are very important!

      Tamra Cater

      June 4, 2019 Reply
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    Very nice post Tamra! Parenting is not easy and I could use tips every day! Thank you :)

    Rachel

    June 16, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you! :)

      Tamra Cater

      June 16, 2019 Reply
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    Such great advice, especially about admitting when we are wrong. So important to see this, learn and move on. Great post! :)

    R.J. Midgley

    July 12, 2019 Reply
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      Thanks!

      Tamra Cater

      July 12, 2019 Reply