Are you at the point of going back to work after having a baby and dreading it? I know the feeling. I remember how much my heart hurt when I had to go back to work after having my baby. It was hard to go back to work; however, it did get a bit easier. I still would much rather be at home with my daughter as much as possible, but it does get better mamma!
That being said, I know how hard this time is for a lot of moms, as I have been there. So, I asked moms to provide advice for moms that are going back to work. I hope this helps make the transition go more smoothly!
Here’s my list of advice from moms:
1.Take it one day at a time. It can be really overwhelming to manage being a mom and working, so take it day by day. Remember, you didn’t figure out mom life overnight so it will take some time to get used to working-mom life. Above all else, no mom guilt allowed! You’re doing what is best for you and your sweet little babe and for that, you should be proud! -Amy from The Postpartum Party
2. OMG, this could be so hard! I went back to work when baby was 3 mo and it was very difficult. Loads of arrangements to make and too much anxiety to handle. One tip I could give is start pumping out and saving up as soon as your milk comes in if you plan to breastfeed.
Let this be known at your office that you will be taking breaks for pumping milk out. If you can afford or claim from insurance, electrical auto pumps are great. Secondly, no matter who you are leaving your baby with get a nanny cam and attach it with your phone. -From Gurru says
3. Ashley, from Irish Twins Momma, shares her story on going back to work after having a baby. It sounds like one of the things that helped her was how much her children grew from being in daycare. She also offers some other tips for moms going back to work, so check out her blog post for more!
4.Totally so hard! Definitely have to have a positive outlook, and know that your babe is having FUN with other kids at daycare. We kind of plateaued at home with what I personally could teach her etc. once she went to daycare, she really started to blossom and so did I!
You really don’t realize how much you lose yourself until you get back in to the working world .. feeling like YOU again takes time, but it’s a wonderful feeling! -From Mimosa Monday Mom
5. Kate, from Teach, Play, Love, discusses some of the positives of going back to work. While she missed her baby, she did enjoy the stimulation and opportunities for being creative at work. She also enjoyed the grown up connections at work. Check her blog post for more tips!
6. Tiffany, from Uncommingly Good Mama, offers some tips for a smooth transition back to work. First of all, she suggested keeping a freezer stash of breast milk if you decided to breastfeed your baby. She also mentioned getting used to saying no. If you need to breastfeed during lunch, then do that. I think one tip that stood out to me was going back to work in the middle of the week. That way, you have the weekend will be much closer, and you don’t over do things.
7. Another mom talks about how she was nervous about returning to work when maternity leave was over. However, she found that going back to work ended up not being as painful as she thought. It may be because she embraced her nervousness and realized she was trying something new (it’s definitely a new experience to go back to work right after having your first baby). Check out her blog post on the topic to get more insight into her story!
8.Going back to work after a baby is tough! The truth is you’ll never be ready. However, what you can do is to introduce your baby to the caregiver before you resume work. Imitate a day of work at right from home to see how your baby behaves.
As much as possible, avoid trying to be “present” that day. Make the necessary adjustments based on your baby’s behavior. -Kai from Mothering Made Easy
9. Natalie, from Freely Nat, offers some excellent tips for moms returning to work. One tip that I should have taken advantage of more was ease back into work. If you need to talk with your employer about setting up a temporary schedule, so you can easy back into a routine, do it! Also, she suggested truly examining your emotions before you head back to work. Your body and mind have changed after carrying a baby. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, anxious, and nervous, as a lot of moms have felt this before. Don’t be afraid to speak a professional if you need help with these feelings. Check out her blog post for more!
10. Tiffany, from Sears in the South, gave me this tip: My tip would be to start pumping when your milk comes in…getting a head start on stocking up is helpful for returning to work. Most women have more than their baby can eat when their milk comes in, so it allows for you to store the extra and help establish a good supply. Once you get back to work, pumping as often as you need to during the day isn’t always easy.
11. Sidra, from She Often Blogs, wrote a blog post on how to balance work and family. It can initially be difficult to figure out how to manage work and family life, especially with a new baby. You have to consider things such as timings- Who is picking up the baby when? Who is taking the baby to daycare? And so on… She does a great job in her post outlining things to consider when trying to balance everything, so definitely take a peak at it!
12. Courtney, from the Simple Mom Blog, did a blog post on transitioning back to work after maternity leave. First of all, she suggested having a plan. For example, plan ahead who will be watching your baby when you go back to work. If you have a plan on all of the logistics of your work routine and your baby’s routine, then this will save you some stress later on. One tip I really liked was having “practice runs.” Go out for 1-1.5 hrs and let someone watch your baby. This can help make the “real deal” of going back to work much easier. Check her blog post for more!
13. Renee, from Golden Slumbers Photos, offers some great tips in one of her posts about how to make the transition back to work a bit easier. I think one of the tips that sticks with me is seeing how much kids thrive when they learn from others (such as the daycare teacher and their peers). And they do! My daughter, for example, has learned so much just from being in daycare and preschool. She has thrived. So, I absolutely agree with Renee’s point. She also offers some other great tips to keep in mind, so definitely check out her post!
As most of these moms mentioned, they felt nervous and potentially overwhelmed with the prospect of going back to work after having a baby. This is ok to feel! I felt nervous and guilty about going back to work. However, as someone mentioned, once you get back into the routine of work and everything else, it becomes so much easier. At this point in time, my daughter is 3, and I still feel a bit guilty that I’m working a lot. But, I keep in mind that I’m doing this for myself as well as her! I’m helping to give her everything she needs.
One thing that also helped me was to ask whoever was watching my daughter to send pictures. This helped a ton! I also took pictures of my daughter to work. And I do admit, I did call her caregiver occasionally just see how things were going.
Mamma, you got this. I know this is a tough time. You likely will be anxious, but it gets so much better. Take a look at this tips and keep them in mind when you do go back to work.
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