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Must Have Advice for New Moms

June 6, 2019, Author: Tamra Cater

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When I had my daughter in 2016, I didn’t have a mom to go to for any advice. She had passed away years beforehand. And oh, how I wish had her advice. Needless to say, since we weren’t close to any family, I turned to google and mom blogs for help. And they were very helpful to me!!

Thus, I wanted to create a post offering advice for new moms by asking seasoned moms for their best tips. I got a lot of help with this post, so I hope this helps you out!

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Advice for New Moms from Seasoned Moms

1.Don’t get overwhelmed with everyone giving advice, you don’t have to take it. Every baby is different and it will come to you, do what is best for you and baby. You got this, and you will be fine. Millions of other moms have done it and so can you.  -Mom of 2 girls from Mississippi

2.My tip would be that you have to make time and make it a priority for self care. How can you fill another persons cup if yours is empty? Create a list of self care activities you can do. When baby is asleep or someone is there to watch them do it. My small self care activity is taking a nice bath and listening to music and putting on my favorite body scrub. When I’m stressed I will get my bath ready and the moment my husband gets home I’m handing over the baby. -Arianne, Mom blogger. Check out her blog here.

3.According to one mom blogger, she suggests practicing consistency and follow through. Kids do need and want this, so it’s important to follow through with your words. Sometimes, as parents, we are tired and distracted. So, we may not always follow through. This mom blogger offers suggestions on how to get back on track, so take a peek at her page for more information.

4. Another mom blogger offers a multitude of advice for parents, so take a peek here. She has topics that range from how to raise a child with anxiety, staying sane while raising kids, and raising kids without family help.

5.If you want a kid that likes to go outside & travels well, start early. They become better at it & so do you. It’s scary just leaving the house when you’re a new mom. Start small but start! Go to the grocery, the park, out to eat with friends, and just keep building their world! -Family and Lifestyle Blogger at www.beentherewithkids.com/

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6.Be in the moment. Let the housework & other tasks wait without worrying about what others think. Enjoy just looking into your baby’s eyes while playing with/ & feeding them. It really does go by fast. Treasure being present with your little one. -Nisi, a lifestyle blogger at www.nisiwanders.com/

7.ABSOLUTELY GET THE POSTPARTUM CORSET THING. I felt like my skin didn’t fit after I had my son. I felt like I didn’t belong in my own body and it was horrible. I kept weighted blankets on me at all times for two solid weeks just to feel normal. –www.thatchickcanwrite.wordpress.com

8.It’s okay to feel and act over protective. You are the protector. Trust what’s inside and never feel shamed for it. They grow up fast and moms always have regrets, so don’t let “being there too much” be a part of your self criticism. Trust me, it’s the times you miss that hurt. –www.holisticfoxcreative.com

9.My advice: Invest in a good baby carrier like ergobaby.Especially if you are onto your second one! I went travelling with baby in tow, with my baby breastfeeding in my ergobaby. -Lifestyle blogger at https://chocoviv.home.blog/2019/06/03/the-journey-begins/

10.I’m a mother of five. Their ages are 22, 17, 13, 9, and soon 5. I spent the first three kids trying to be the “perfect mom” and I wore myself out trying to have them in every sport and activity. I’m not saying that it’s wrong. I’m saying that it doesn’t make you any better or worse. What I mean is, spend time balancing your life with your family. Happiness and healthy kids are what matters. When they show interest in something cultivate that because you never know what future person you were raising. This helped us financially, this helped us have peace when it was time to do an activity because the child was dedicated and not forced and it empowered my kids to feel like they have a choice in their life. Because of that I’ve raise some pretty strong kids with caring Hearts and great leadership skills and I wouldn’t trade it no matter what. Good luck on your parenting journey! -Amber at https://melaninhomemaker.com/

11.Freezer meals for the Crock Pot are lifesavers because there’s no other way you’ll have time or energy to get around to feeding your family. I meal prepped three weeks worth of freezer dinners the day before my son was born. It helped to get him to come out, too. He was five days late.

Get one of those automatic swing rockers, but make sure you purchase one you can plug in, rather than one that runs on batteries. We went through more C batteries than I can count.

Let yourself cry when you need to. Your hormones have just gone through the ride of their life and you should be allowed to let it out. Pass baby duties off to Dad for a bit so you can recoup. You deserve it!

-From www.momofthemoment.com

12.My best piece of advice is try to get at least 10 minutes of fresh air a day. It helps you mentally. Walking for 10mins around the block helped me so much and reset my patience level. Let alone it is good for your health and to get some baby weight off. 🙂  -Ashley at www.IrishTwinsMomma.com

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13.That you don’t have to listen to anyone’s advise…they are your baby and you’re the parent…you don’t need to follow advise to let them cry it out/you’re hugging too much/you should’ve stopped breast feeding by now/you’re showing too much love etc,  if you don’t want too. Or in other words, do what feels right and remember that there are no 15 year olds still breast feeding and cosleeping! You aren’t creating a rod for your own back! -The PhD Mummy at www.thephdmummy.com

14.Don’t sweat the small stuff! -Tyra at www.tyraodette.com

15.You don’t have to let everyone hold your baby or have visitors straight away. Set boundaries you are comfortable with everyone else can wait as it is your special moments and you equally deserve a rest. -Alyssa at www.thesacredspaceap.com

16.Being a part of someone’s birth is a privilege, not a right. Don’t let anyone guilt you for not inviting them. –www.thesoundmama.com

17.That everything is a phase- phew!!!!!  -You will enjoy reading more about this idea here.

18.Lanolin…. also take all advice with a grain of salt. -Natasha at www.gratefulgrumbles.com

19. Gabi from http://www.c6beauty.com

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She suggests using this handmade diaper rash cream that you can find the recipe for here.

20.Follow your gut feeling about your baby. When my son was born I tried to tell everyone, my mom, my mil and the doctors that his eyes were yellowish and I doubt he has jaundice, but I was assurred even by doctors that his eyes looked fine and I was being paranoid or overprotective. He was 3 days old when he stopped taking milk, he was taken to clinic and then rushed to hospital, where he was diagnosed for 5 days for serious jaundice with 28 riboflavin. Doctors said he was lucky to survive. Hardest 5 days of my life. Always follow your gut as a new mom. -From www.gurrusays.com

21.Need Breastfeeding tips? Check out Summerwine’s post here.

22.The biggest one I have is listen to advice. Take what works for you and leave the rest. Some new moms see everything as criticism. But sometimes people are trying to help and it might be useful. And don’t stress about the small stuff. -From www.socalfunfamily.com

23.It’s to make self-care a priority, even though it feels counter intuitive now you have a baby to care for. Taking care of yourself makes you more well-rounded and a better mom! With some clear communication with your partner you can schedule in some time, from 10 minutes to moisturize and pluck your eyebrows to an hour to take a nice long bath. It sure helped making the first couple of months a lot easier for me!-From Nathalie’s post.

24.My best advice is to not listen to everyone else around you. You know your kids…or will to know them. You parent your way;) -From www.allformyself.net

25.My advice would be to never compare your baby to other babies and yourself as a parent to other parents. Take it one day at a time and sleep whenever you can! -From miniminimalistmama.com

26.My advice is pretty simple: take time for yourself. Don’t feel selfish or inadequate for practicing self-care. It is the best thing you can do for both yourself and your baby. -From kimberlyleatherwood.com

27.Not a mom, but I saw a product for parents w/ special needs kids. It was meant to wrap around the child’s seat belt & inform medical help of any concerns if something were to happen & the parent isn’t able to communicate that. The link showing this product is here.

-From jasbeingjas.com

28. For the parents of kids who don’t sleep, please see this post by Kate (I have absolutely been there and could have used this same post!).

29.Make sure that you remember that you were someone before you were someone’s mom. You had relationships and hobbies and a personality that shaped you – don’t let that escape! You haven’t changed in to someone different, you’ve simply become someone else. Hold tight to the relationships that mean something to you, keep up with your hobbies, and let your personality guide your parenting (not the other way around!). Being a mom is exhausting, don’t let it be all you are. -From olijuice.com

30.I’m not a new mom by any means (mom of 3), but I think my advice would be…Do the best you can. No mom is perfect. If you love them, feed them, clothe them, care for them…you’re doing a great job! -From Megan

Final Thoughts on Advice for New Moms

In some ways, I feel as if learning to be a mom is a bit of trial and error, but also involves some of your own instincts. You will learn and know your baby better than anyone.  I was clueless at first, but grow more and more confident as time went by. As several people mention, please also take care of yourself, as this will help you stay energized and attuned to your child’s needs.

Enjoy this journey. It is wonderful, blissful, but also exhausting. And it goes quick!! My baby became a toddler in the blink of an eye. Truly, being a parent is the best job I could have asked for.

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    Great tips!! Thanks for including me!

    Kimberly Leatherwood

    June 6, 2019 Reply
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      Thanks, and you’re welcome!

      Tamra Cater

      June 6, 2019 Reply
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      Excellent advice! I could've used some of this three years ago.

      Main Mom

      June 7, 2019 Reply
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    Great tips! I’m not a mom yet but we’re planning to start a family in the next couple of years and we live across the country from both of our families. -Hillary www.shmillas.com

    Hillary

    June 7, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you! That sounds awesome!

      Tamra Cater

      June 7, 2019 Reply
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    Thank you for putting this together!!

    Chocoviv

    June 7, 2019 Reply
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      Great advice thank you for sharing! I lost my mother before I had children too and it definitely is hard.

      Real Bad Mommy

      June 8, 2019 Reply
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        Thank you so much!

        Tamra Cater

        June 8, 2019 Reply
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    Absolutely love your advice on starting early! With anything, it is great to start as early as possible. It is never too soon to teach your child.

    Jaya Avendel

    June 7, 2019 Reply
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    This is very useful for new Dads as well!

    Chris Kosto | GoldenBloggerz.com

    June 9, 2019 Reply
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      That is true! Thanks for reading!

      Tamra Cater

      June 9, 2019 Reply
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    This an adorable post. Keep writing!

    Asher Downer

    June 9, 2019 Reply
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      Thank you! :)

      Tamra Cater

      June 9, 2019 Reply
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    Outstanding “real” tips!

    Lisa Alioto

    June 14, 2019 Reply