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For a new mother, it’s an adjustment and quite a change when a new baby comes along. Of course, mothers are the ones having to go through the child birth, but I think a lot of times dads can be forgotten in the process of adjusting to a new baby. They also have to go through quite the adjustment and may feel clueless when it comes to even handling the baby. I know that I felt a bit clueless and even had to have someone teach me how to change a baby’s diaper, as well as how to breastfeed. So, what about dads? I’d like to offer 10 must have tips for new dads to help them adjust to a new baby.
1.During delivery, you might decide to stay in the room with the mom.
In terms of whether or not you stay in the delivery room, this is something that you and the mother should consider. I know I didn’t want anyone in the delivery room except for my husband. My husband was truly supportive, although I know he saw some things he may never wanted to see! Lol, all things aside though, I think he was happy to be there for the birth of his baby!
2.You will not hurt your baby.
Yes, accidents do happen. However, babies actually are a bit resilient, so don’t be afraid of picking them up and handling them.
3.Diaper Changing Tips
For great diaper changing tips, click here.
At first, you may make mistakes, but in no time, you will become the expert at diaper changing! And as the article mentions, babies do not judge and will not be upset if you are taking too long to change a diaper.
4.You can carry an awesome diaper bag!
I love this tactical baby gear diaper bag! My husband even said it was awesome! It comes with a changing mat (Which you will most definitely need!!), and it is made of durable, water resistant construction.
5. Babies do cry a lot at first and sometimes for no reason.
Babies cry the most between month 2 and 3. At first, it takes some trial and error to figure out why the baby is crying. You may have to try a few things before the answer is found. It may be that they are hungry, need to be burped, or just need soothing. Over time, you will learn some of your baby’s cries, and there won’t be as much trial and error. And as mentioned, sometimes babies cry for no reason. When this happened, I’d do the best to soothe my daughter, and it would eventually pass.
6. You can also develop a strong emotional bond with your baby early on.
Initially, babies don’t have any preference or attachments to particular people. Thus, they can easily be passed around among family, friends, and even strangers. But, by about the 3rd or 4th month, you can observe preference for caregivers in babies.
7. It’s likely you will still lose sleep.
Even if the mother is exclusively breastfeeding at night, you might still be woken up by the baby crying or the mother getting up to feed. On average, babies start to sleep through the night at 6 months. However, it took my daughter until she was almost 2 for her to sleep through the night. We tried everything we could, but it still took this long to get her to that point. One study even suggests that genetics, rather than sleep training, may play more of a role in when a baby sleeps through the night.
If possible, work with the mother on a way to help each other get the most sleep possible. It may be that the mom is up on and off most of the night breastfeeding, so help her get a nap during the day. Or if both of you are feeding the baby, take turns getting up to feed the baby.
8. Know that a new baby is a huge adjustment to your entire routine.
At first, it was difficult for me to just get to the grocery store, because I was breastfeeding and needed to be available. And stopping in the middle of grocery shopping to breastfeed was something I was uncomfortable with. It may be that one person stays at home with the baby while the other person does errands.
Also, it can be a tough transition to having to find a babysitter, so you can go to work or do things as a couple. In terms of who drops off the baby and when, this takes coordination and understanding in both the mother and father.
9. Enjoy the little moments
Trust me, babyhood goes by fast! Spend as much time as possible with your baby. Enjoy your baby’s first smile and first case of the giggles, among other things!
10. Have a confidence in yourself and know that you are just as important to that baby.
It is true that mothers are more likely to do the caregiving, and fathers are more likely to play with their babies. However, still be involved in changing diapers and feeding your baby, as this helps you develop a strong, emotional bond with them. The attachment you and your baby develop is related to the quality of time you spend with him or her.
Welcome to your new adventure and enjoy this time! You can do this! This is a kind of love that is so different from any other kind of love, and you will want to move mountains for that baby.