I currently struggle with negative thinking, poor self-esteem, and even depression. Part of the problem is that I didn’t have help in boosting positive thinking early on. That being said, I have decided to take the step to start working on those things, as it will obviously benefit me. In addition, it will benefit my family, as self-care makes me a better parent and spouse. I think the greatest gift I can give to my family is the best version of myself (although we still always have our bad days). As most parents, I want my child to have more than I did. I want her to know her value and how much of an impact she can have on this world. Thus, by working on me, I can better help boost her own positive thinking.
With all of this being said, I don’t come from a great background. In some ways, my parents did their best. However, my dad said and did things that shattered my way of thinking and my self-worth. I did not feel valued and important. Due to this, I fear I may “pass this on” to my daughter. But, I know this is not inevitable, and I do have to work on it. It starts with my own self-care. And then, it starts with nurturing the relationship I have with my daughter by arming myself with the confidence and the knowledge of how best to help her grow.
I believe one huge sentiment to keep in mind is the following:
It starts with teaching myself a “new voice” and then passing that on to her.
So, I have said that positive thoughts are important. It may seem obvious. But really, what kind of impact does it have?
Essentially, “you are what you think.” Your thoughts impact the way you behave and who you are. Negative thoughts sap the energy out of you and may even create depression.
On the other hand, positive thoughts helps your brain grow. In that, it results in the development of new brain synapses (or connections between neurons). This is especially the case in the prefrontal cortex or the area of the brain that is responsible for planning and attention. Positive thinking also “decreases cortisol and increases serotonin (an overall sense of well-being).”
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The authors of this book use words and visuals to help express the positive and negative thoughts/emotions that the character is experiencing. In turn, this makes it a great book for younger children who may not have the language skills yet that are necessary for expressing such thoughts and feelings.
The story focuses on how the character, Madeleine, changes her thoughts in more powerful, positive thoughts that opens her up more confidence! Kids today are likely facing a lot more stressors at earlier ages (for example, some would say, “Kindergarten is the new First grade!”)
This book helps young children develop a strong, positive mindset early on that builds the foundation for success and resilience!
This book is great for children between the ages of 5-8 years old. The story concerns Kate, who uses positive thinking and a strong mind to help overcome common challenges. For example, one situation in the book concerns standing in front of the class for show and tell.
In order to tackle some of these challenges, Kate uses applicable techniques such as goal setting, positive self-talk, and a breathing/mindfulness exercise. You and your child can discuss these situations, as well as other situations that your child may be currently going through.
This book is great for children between the ages of 6-12 years. This book “takes children and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat negative thinking.” For instance, it offers a new way of seeing life’s hurdles, and the book even offers drawing and writing activities to help master those new skills for overcoming life’s challenges.
Children learn mantras that become a part of their inner voice, and therefore, helps them learn that they can solve their problems and the emotions that come with it.
In this book, Drew and his dragon go on a journey, where Drew teaches his dragon how to handle difficult situations. This book is great for teaching kids about emotions and having the confidence to problem solve whatever issue they come across. In addition, this book is best for children age 4 and up.
As mentioned, positive thinking has wide reaching effects. It impacts one’s sense of self confidence and whether someone may develop depression later on down the road. This, it’s important to start early in helping your child develop an inner voice that will create happiness and resilience! These recommended books are one way to start the process.
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